I just spotted it again… another post on Facebook about how women should never “rely on a man” and that men are “threatened by successful women”.
As if 99.9% of all men are somehow stuck in the male chauvinism glory days of the 1950s!
The post goes on to call other women to action, as though there is a war coming and they need to be prepared, and to warn that men are “scared” and “intimidated” by strong, smart, and successful women.
I love the passion and the huge accomplishments women have made in the twenty-first century. Women are more successful now than any other time in our history, and it's amazing.
With that said, I think it's time I speak up publicly and share a message that most men want all women to hear:
Wait for it… Men LOVE successful women!
Thats right, let me say it again… Men love smart, strong, powerful, driven, successful – women. We aren't “afraid”, “intimidated”, or “turned off” by a smart and successful woman.
In fact, it's a quality men boast about to others and I personally think it's a huge turn on.
I can't tell you how many times I've bragged to friends, my parents, or other business owners about one of the many amazing and successful women I've met in my life. I've used words like “go getter”, “very successful”, “fire cracker”, “ass-kicker”, and the list goes on.
Some people reading this post are going to say they know guys that are absolutely intimidated by successful females. You know, the guy that wants his woman at home “barefoot and pregnant” and have his dinner ready when he gets home.
I realize it's not fair or accurate to generalize an entire gender with just one opinion. But, I would argue those guys are also the ones that are intimidated by a taller woman, or, tell you how to dress, who you can talk to, where your “allowed” to go, and those are the insecure guys that women should avoid anyway!
Why Men Love Successful Women
The normal everyday guy working to pay his bills and create his own success in life will appreciate a women with accomplishments. It's a bonus if his girlfriend or wife is successful, if she is more successful than he is, even better.
Two people working together to build wealth, retirements, and security for the future is awesome.
Why would guys want to do that alone if they don't have to?
Where problems might sometimes arise is when a successful women brings home the hard headed, goal oriented, aggressive, take no prisoners attitude she has in the office, and it bleeds into the relationship.
Like there is some battle to be fought at the dinner table over who runs the household. Guys don't like that, but guess what, girls don't either!
Everyone wants to have an equal say in decisions, big or small. Couples can make them together and respect each others opinion regardless how much money they made on the tax return last year.
Men are men, we want to have some say in decisions, and not feel resentment because we are being emasculated by a “girl power” agenda that doesn't “need men” for anything.
It all comes down to balance and respect. Us guys aren't out to sabotage women's success in the world. We love it. Just don't stop being that sexy girl in sweatpants and no make-up that we fell in love with in the 1st place!
I'd love to know what you think, are you a super successful woman, or a guy who is struggling with this issue in your relationship?
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